Most couples choose to exchange rings during the ceremony. Some are plain gold bands, while others are designer bands with stones and detailing. Regardless of the bands you choose, you must decide what they symbolize to you.

The ancient Egyptians believed there was a vein in the ring finger of your left hand that went straight to your heart, and that is why that finger is chosen. The bands traditionally represent “eternity” in many ceremonies.

But you can choose what they mean to you. The rings are a symbol or token of your commitment to each other. You can speak directly to each other, using the same words or with two separate speeches. Or your celebrant can say the words for you.

You can choose the symbolism: that it represents the heavens, the sun and the moon. That the ring is a tangible reminder of your love when you are apart. That the band encircles the finger as your love encircles the person.

Take your time and consider what you want the rings to represent. Then work with your celebrant to find the words to share that with each other on your wedding day.