If you or your spouse (or both of you) are agnostic, atheist, or share different ideas about faith, how can a ceremony by a minister address that?

First, you and your spouse need to come to a decision on how to handle a difference of religious beliefs, especially if you plan to have children. That aside, a non-denominational ceremony may be the way to go. I can marry any consenting man and woman (or perform a commitment ceremony for any two consenting adults), and we can work together to make sure the language reflects your beliefs. A more Unitarian-style “May the God you believe in protect you” wording may help smooth things over, respecting the beliefs of all present, including the bride and groom.

Sections may be borrowed and adapted from specific religions, traditions, or beliefs. A spiritual ceremony can make no mention of God, but instead reflect the power of the two people who have chosen to join their lives.

There is no need to belong to any church or faith to have a non-denominational service, whether you choose a religious, non-religious, or spirtual ceremony. It is your day and your commitment. If the officiant you speak to won’t use the language you choose (including “You may kiss the bride”), you can find a non-demoninational, non-judgemental officiant to the job instead.